This is the next five tips from my previous blog, Turning Something "Bad"...
Break ups does make people feel down, sad, left out and very emotional. It lowers one’s self-esteem.
Do not let a break up make you feel useless. You are worth it!
Follow these useful tips, and be learn how to be happy again!
PLAN AND CONQUER
"If we don't set our schedules, somebody else will set it for us," declares Dr. Trent, which is what has happened in most breakups. This may be difficult emotionally, so he recommends choosing one goal at a time to work toward. This may be to make it through the day, travel or earn a master's degree. Frei emphasizes rewarding yourself for accomplishing goals.
TAKE TIME TO GREIVE AND START WITH A CLEAN SLATE
People heal at different paces. Allow yourself time to feel, cry. "Clear up reminders," says Frei, by purging things in your living space that remind you of the person. Don't get involved in a new relationship too quickly, which may transfer feelings from your old relationship to the new one; rather, "take time with friends to get rid of the loneliness feeling."
ENRICH OTHERS THROUGH VOLUNTEERING
Volunteering is a great way to achieve self-actualization while helping others. The caveat: People may not feel like volunteering. Regardless, Dr. Trent believes "actions dictate feelings, not the reverse. When we begin to take actions that are positive… that generates positive feelings. Not the opposite." Take the first step, and the feelings will naturally follow.
REDISCOVER YOURSELF
Relationships are often filled with many compromises. Create a vision board by cutting out pictures and words from magazines that are meaningful to you in a relationship, or print your own, and paste them to a poster board. This constant visual reminder will fill your mind with positive energy and remind you what can be achieved each day.
SORRY, JERRY MAGUIRE – YOU DON'T COMPLETE ME
Contrary to the popular movie line, Frei says, "Love isn't about somebody completing you; we're all complete." Develop your weaknesses so you don't search for them in a partner and sacrifice good qualities (kind and loving) for the one strength you're fixated on (someone who is good with money). Positive qualities attract positive people. Focus on developing yourself verses finding satiation in another.
These helpful tips were also from www.sheknows.com
My personal tip in a break up situation is that you need time to cry. Be sad for a moment. You can never be strong all the time. Face the reality. You do not have to pretend that you are okay, and nothing is wrong. It is okay to cry. So, for that moment cry and be sad.
But after that, shake it off! Smile! And Move on!
Breaking up is not the worst thing that could happen. Breaking up would mean something better is meant for you!
Think Positive, and Smile!
Note: These tips are mostly for women.
However, there are also tips that men could use and apply to themselves.
Saturday, June 25, 2011
Turning Something "Bad"...
Yesterday, I have read numerous bitter divorce stories. Then, I decided to post success divorce stories to eliminate all the negativities.
Now, I have decided to post an entry of something new and fresh to help reduce all the negativities in break ups.
Breaking up is never going to be a good news. Unfortunately, there are times wherein some people have to go through with it.
In line with my previous blog filled with positivities, I am going to post an entry to make people knowledgeable that break ups could be something good. Moreover, something that they could benefit from.
These tips are simple, yet helpful!
Here are 10 ways one can make a break up a positive thing and benefit-able. Not even sure if that’s even a word. Oh, well! You get my point.
Just keep on reading, and you might get something useful.
These helpful tips were also from www.sheknows.com
REDIRECT YOUR NEGATIVE ENERGY
Trade male bashing for some sweating -- we mean glistening, for us ladies. Dr. John Trent, head coach of StrongFamilies.com, says exercise is therapeutic on many levels and even simple things like walking or running are a positive way to deal with emotion. Even though you may not feel like getting up off the couch after a breakup, you will feel better once you do. And you'll look more hot and fit than ever before!
TAKE TIME FOR EXTREME SELF CARE
People tend to beat themselves up after a breakup, says Heidi Frei, life coach of Heidi Frei Coaching & Consulting. Rid yourself of "I should haves" – you know those phrases that circumvent your thoughts, like "I should have left him earlier" – and instead surround yourself with people who love you. Don't worry about what other people think. Make the best decision for yourself.
LISTEN TO YOURSELF
Frei notes one of the biggest problems women have after a breakup is not putting themselves first. To resolve this unsettled feeling, she recommends beginning a journal. Writing down the thoughts your former partner didn't listen to and allowing yourself to focus on them now, can be restorative. Learn to say "yes" when things are good for you and "no" when things are bad.
TREAT YOURSELF LIKE A KNIGHT IN SHINING ARMOR WOULD
If you can't treat yourself with love, how will someone else? Frei says it's important to "treat yourself like you want your ideal partner to treat you." Buy yourself flowers for a special occasion, pamper yourself at the spa or plan a fun weekend getaway.
MIND OVER MATTER ISN'T SO
Dr. Trent says rekindling positivity after a breakup is simple, although not easy: "Understand that you cannot out-logic emotions." That is thinking something shouldn't bother you despite your emotional reactions, like negative feelings when seeing couples in public, even though you "should" be over it. Fill your mind with constructive thoughts, and don't fret when logic seems anything but rational.
The next five tips, will be posted on my next blog entry! Keep on reading, and help yourself!
Now, I have decided to post an entry of something new and fresh to help reduce all the negativities in break ups.
Breaking up is never going to be a good news. Unfortunately, there are times wherein some people have to go through with it.
In line with my previous blog filled with positivities, I am going to post an entry to make people knowledgeable that break ups could be something good. Moreover, something that they could benefit from.
These tips are simple, yet helpful!
Here are 10 ways one can make a break up a positive thing and benefit-able. Not even sure if that’s even a word. Oh, well! You get my point.
Just keep on reading, and you might get something useful.
These helpful tips were also from www.sheknows.com
REDIRECT YOUR NEGATIVE ENERGY
Trade male bashing for some sweating -- we mean glistening, for us ladies. Dr. John Trent, head coach of StrongFamilies.com, says exercise is therapeutic on many levels and even simple things like walking or running are a positive way to deal with emotion. Even though you may not feel like getting up off the couch after a breakup, you will feel better once you do. And you'll look more hot and fit than ever before!
TAKE TIME FOR EXTREME SELF CARE
People tend to beat themselves up after a breakup, says Heidi Frei, life coach of Heidi Frei Coaching & Consulting. Rid yourself of "I should haves" – you know those phrases that circumvent your thoughts, like "I should have left him earlier" – and instead surround yourself with people who love you. Don't worry about what other people think. Make the best decision for yourself.
LISTEN TO YOURSELF
Frei notes one of the biggest problems women have after a breakup is not putting themselves first. To resolve this unsettled feeling, she recommends beginning a journal. Writing down the thoughts your former partner didn't listen to and allowing yourself to focus on them now, can be restorative. Learn to say "yes" when things are good for you and "no" when things are bad.
TREAT YOURSELF LIKE A KNIGHT IN SHINING ARMOR WOULD
If you can't treat yourself with love, how will someone else? Frei says it's important to "treat yourself like you want your ideal partner to treat you." Buy yourself flowers for a special occasion, pamper yourself at the spa or plan a fun weekend getaway.
MIND OVER MATTER ISN'T SO
Dr. Trent says rekindling positivity after a breakup is simple, although not easy: "Understand that you cannot out-logic emotions." That is thinking something shouldn't bother you despite your emotional reactions, like negative feelings when seeing couples in public, even though you "should" be over it. Fill your mind with constructive thoughts, and don't fret when logic seems anything but rational.
The next five tips, will be posted on my next blog entry! Keep on reading, and help yourself!
Thursday, June 23, 2011
...But a Better Ending!
[continuation...]
The other three success divorce stories from my previous blog.
"My first husband and I were married in a beautiful Catholic ceremony. About a year later, I came home from a meeting and my husband was at the kitchen table working on his laptop. He was in good spirits and indicated he was planning to go out to watch football with a group of friends from work. I thought nothing of it... At 2 a.m. the phone rang. It was my husband, telling me he had been arrested... He was charged with four felonies, including importuning and soliciting a minor for sex! He convinced me it was a misunderstanding. I endured the humiliation of his arrest being on television and the radio. I came to understand that our entire marriage had been a charade. Everything that came out of his mouth was a lie. I eventually told him I wanted a divorce. I later learned that he had been cheating on me the entire time. I was so depressed... Finally, I woke up one day and discovered that I actually had it pretty good. I picked myself up and put away the wine glasses. I went to Europe for the first time. I bought my own house -- painted and decorated it myself. I decided to start dating again. I met a man on Match.com -- he proposed 16 months later. We have one son and another child on the way. I am truly convinced that everything happens for a reason." - Maureen
"I was very inspired by my divorce. I have turned my lemons into lemonade. I am the founder of the National Association of Divorce for Women and Children, a 24/7 resource center that supports single-again women. When I divorced 14 years ago, I was searching for tools to help move my life forward, and to be the best role model for my children. That's when I became certified in the coaching field. I'm also a certified behavior consultant. I have been working with family law attorneys for years and have developed a program called "Single Again! Now What?", a 12-week program mentoring other divorcees. My joy is when I see a mom believe in herself again." - Joanie
"I got married at 20 and was completely insecure. I thought I needed a man to complete me, but I was comatose, walking through marriage without feeling alive. I was terrified my life was over but more terrified that if I left, no other man would want me. My husband wasn't bad to me -- I just got married too young and didn't even know what love was. My turning point was when some of my students dared me to rap. It led me to try, and stimulated me to see there was life beyond an unsatisfying job. My husband hated me being out so much. I was no longer the constant wife-y type, coming home from school to cook and clean and plan social dates with friends. Eventually, I decided that I needed to live instead of passing time. When I finally left I danced out and didn't take a dime in alimony. My freedom was worth everything and all I needed. I'm still good friends with my ex. It was very amicable. He was a good person, but couldn't handle me changing." - Daylle
The other three success divorce stories from my previous blog.
"My first husband and I were married in a beautiful Catholic ceremony. About a year later, I came home from a meeting and my husband was at the kitchen table working on his laptop. He was in good spirits and indicated he was planning to go out to watch football with a group of friends from work. I thought nothing of it... At 2 a.m. the phone rang. It was my husband, telling me he had been arrested... He was charged with four felonies, including importuning and soliciting a minor for sex! He convinced me it was a misunderstanding. I endured the humiliation of his arrest being on television and the radio. I came to understand that our entire marriage had been a charade. Everything that came out of his mouth was a lie. I eventually told him I wanted a divorce. I later learned that he had been cheating on me the entire time. I was so depressed... Finally, I woke up one day and discovered that I actually had it pretty good. I picked myself up and put away the wine glasses. I went to Europe for the first time. I bought my own house -- painted and decorated it myself. I decided to start dating again. I met a man on Match.com -- he proposed 16 months later. We have one son and another child on the way. I am truly convinced that everything happens for a reason." - Maureen
"I was very inspired by my divorce. I have turned my lemons into lemonade. I am the founder of the National Association of Divorce for Women and Children, a 24/7 resource center that supports single-again women. When I divorced 14 years ago, I was searching for tools to help move my life forward, and to be the best role model for my children. That's when I became certified in the coaching field. I'm also a certified behavior consultant. I have been working with family law attorneys for years and have developed a program called "Single Again! Now What?", a 12-week program mentoring other divorcees. My joy is when I see a mom believe in herself again." - Joanie
"I got married at 20 and was completely insecure. I thought I needed a man to complete me, but I was comatose, walking through marriage without feeling alive. I was terrified my life was over but more terrified that if I left, no other man would want me. My husband wasn't bad to me -- I just got married too young and didn't even know what love was. My turning point was when some of my students dared me to rap. It led me to try, and stimulated me to see there was life beyond an unsatisfying job. My husband hated me being out so much. I was no longer the constant wife-y type, coming home from school to cook and clean and plan social dates with friends. Eventually, I decided that I needed to live instead of passing time. When I finally left I danced out and didn't take a dime in alimony. My freedom was worth everything and all I needed. I'm still good friends with my ex. It was very amicable. He was a good person, but couldn't handle me changing." - Daylle
Not a Bitter Ending..
Today, I read more than twelve divorce stories. My eyes got tired from reading tons of stories. Most part of the stories were just them ranting about how bad their partner was, how she was a slut, or how he was such a thief or user.
I can not find a good story that we can learn from or even use as an example for my second entry in my new series, What’s Your Story? I can not use the stories, since they are too exaggerated. I will post some of the phrases or sentences from the stories that I am talking about.
Almost all of the divorce stories are written by people who cannot move on or still bitter from their break up.
Here are some example phrases from the divorce stories that I have read.
"She is abusive and will puch the blame on you and will lie to u about being raped just to get attention and sympathy which is all of course untrue stories."
"I have a forged gov't check from her, forged medical documents, false claims in letters from her, and lots more crap I would love to share with anyone! Stay away from the devil!"
"She will push blame onto everyone else and make others look bad when in fact it is really her who is the insane one."
"Then he started taking money out of my account which did not have his name on it. He had stole my ATM card. Turns out my ex is a compulsive liar."
"Nicole Martinez is a liar and every man alive needs to stay away. You might get an STD."
There are so much more ranting from these people.
So now, I decided not to continue the series of divorce stories. Because I cannot really find any good divorce stories that I can use as an example for the series.
On the bright side, I have found 6 success stories from www.sheknows.com
"I am a very successful divorcee. I married the love of my life, and after 12 years of a great partnership, we changed and realized we loved each other so much that we had to let each other go. Since we divorced, we have worked together professionally and love it! My 'was-band' found an amazing woman and we are both happier, healthier and love that we are still in each other's lives. You know the old saying, 'When you love someone, set them free?' Well, in our case, we came back to each other professionally and have a very deep love for each other. Friends called our divorce the 'divorce of the decade.'"
- Lorrie
"My ex-husband and I have an excellent working relationship. We share custody -- one week on, one week off -- and have agreed that we will always give each other the opportunity to have more time with the kids if we need childcare. We both agreed that it wasn't about us. It was about the kids, first and foremost. We are told by many divorced friends that we are fortunate to be good friends now, and should be the example of what divorced parents should be." - Natalie
"I have been divorced for exactly a year now. I am finally in a great place! I haven't been this happy nor healthy (mentally and physically) in years. I was married for 20 years and began to grow in ways that my ex just couldn't understand. I went through a very difficult divorce -- my ex was very controlling and mentally abusive. I was scared to death to leave, but I began to get stronger. I have turned my story into a business called AndeLifeCoach.com, where I coach other people to find their 'authentic' true selves. I have never looked or felt better." - Andrea
I can not find a good story that we can learn from or even use as an example for my second entry in my new series, What’s Your Story? I can not use the stories, since they are too exaggerated. I will post some of the phrases or sentences from the stories that I am talking about.
Almost all of the divorce stories are written by people who cannot move on or still bitter from their break up.
Here are some example phrases from the divorce stories that I have read.
"She is abusive and will puch the blame on you and will lie to u about being raped just to get attention and sympathy which is all of course untrue stories."
"I have a forged gov't check from her, forged medical documents, false claims in letters from her, and lots more crap I would love to share with anyone! Stay away from the devil!"
"She will push blame onto everyone else and make others look bad when in fact it is really her who is the insane one."
"Then he started taking money out of my account which did not have his name on it. He had stole my ATM card. Turns out my ex is a compulsive liar."
"Nicole Martinez is a liar and every man alive needs to stay away. You might get an STD."
There are so much more ranting from these people.
So now, I decided not to continue the series of divorce stories. Because I cannot really find any good divorce stories that I can use as an example for the series.
On the bright side, I have found 6 success stories from www.sheknows.com
"I am a very successful divorcee. I married the love of my life, and after 12 years of a great partnership, we changed and realized we loved each other so much that we had to let each other go. Since we divorced, we have worked together professionally and love it! My 'was-band' found an amazing woman and we are both happier, healthier and love that we are still in each other's lives. You know the old saying, 'When you love someone, set them free?' Well, in our case, we came back to each other professionally and have a very deep love for each other. Friends called our divorce the 'divorce of the decade.'"
- Lorrie
"My ex-husband and I have an excellent working relationship. We share custody -- one week on, one week off -- and have agreed that we will always give each other the opportunity to have more time with the kids if we need childcare. We both agreed that it wasn't about us. It was about the kids, first and foremost. We are told by many divorced friends that we are fortunate to be good friends now, and should be the example of what divorced parents should be." - Natalie
"I have been divorced for exactly a year now. I am finally in a great place! I haven't been this happy nor healthy (mentally and physically) in years. I was married for 20 years and began to grow in ways that my ex just couldn't understand. I went through a very difficult divorce -- my ex was very controlling and mentally abusive. I was scared to death to leave, but I began to get stronger. I have turned my story into a business called AndeLifeCoach.com, where I coach other people to find their 'authentic' true selves. I have never looked or felt better." - Andrea
Sunday, June 19, 2011
It's Funny but It's Real Part Two
Here's the other five bizarre divorce stories from my previous blog.
Obsessive cleaning leads to divorce
A woman from Germany left her husband after 15 years of marriage because he was cleaning obsessively everything in the house all of the time. She’d been patient for that long, having empathy for her man’s disorder, but her patience ran out when the guy had rebuilt a wall in their house because it’d gone dirty.
He gave her his heart and his kidney, but…
Dr Richard Batista could do nothing but to watch his wife slowly dying from kidneys failure. Her organism rejected the donated organs from her father and her brother, before it became clear that her husband’s kidney matches perfect. Batista never hesitated and saved his wife’s life. Given the most valuable present and building a romantic fairytale of happy marriage, full of love, commitment and sacrifice, she returned to their home healthy and… jumped into another man’s embrace. Angered husband couldn’t believe the lack of gratitude he was faced with, so despite divorce he wanted his kidney back. As the donated organ was not a marital asset he couldn’t get it back, so he wanted 1.5 million dollars. The Supreme Court has denied his claim because it was not legal to put a monetary value on a human organ.
When religion takes part
A woman from Saudi Arabia has requested a divorce because her husband broke the strict Islamic codes. He asked for a sneak of her face. It wouldn’t be strange if they were not married, but 30 years of living together talk that, at least for the Western world, this is a bizarre reason for getting divorced. It happened while she was sleeping as the husband lifted her veil off her face to finally see how she looks. Unfortunately she woke up, and although he was apologizing and promising that he won’t repeat it again, she left him forever.
“Divorce! Divorce! Be Patient! Be Patient! I Love You! I Love You!”
In a hilarious Chinese case a woman requested divorce using the testimony of the family’s parrot. As it’s well known, the speaking birds use to repeat the words that they hear more often. For this betrayed Chinese wife it was clear that her man is having an affair when their parrot repeated words and phrases like “divorce”, “be patient” and “I love you” in recent times, supposedly that the bird was hearing to husband’s conversation with his mistress. The wife tried to use the parrot as a witness on the trial, but although she gained a divorce, the bird’s testimony, of course, wasn’t accepted by the court.
Splitting assets equal before the divorce
Being suspicious that his wife is having an affair with a local cop, a man from a village near Phnom Penh, Cambodia, has decided to end their 18 years lasting marriage. Although they have had a conversation about the issue for some time, one day Moeun (the husband) and his relatives and friends showed up “armed” with a lot of chainsaws and, we guess, with some alcohol in blood (or some blood in alcohol), and divided the house in two equal parts, probably supposing that the court would make the same decision later. What’s more interesting, they moved his share to his parents’ place, although it’s useless without the other part. Fortunately they hadn’t kids.
Hope you had fun reading!
Obsessive cleaning leads to divorce
A woman from Germany left her husband after 15 years of marriage because he was cleaning obsessively everything in the house all of the time. She’d been patient for that long, having empathy for her man’s disorder, but her patience ran out when the guy had rebuilt a wall in their house because it’d gone dirty.
He gave her his heart and his kidney, but…
Dr Richard Batista could do nothing but to watch his wife slowly dying from kidneys failure. Her organism rejected the donated organs from her father and her brother, before it became clear that her husband’s kidney matches perfect. Batista never hesitated and saved his wife’s life. Given the most valuable present and building a romantic fairytale of happy marriage, full of love, commitment and sacrifice, she returned to their home healthy and… jumped into another man’s embrace. Angered husband couldn’t believe the lack of gratitude he was faced with, so despite divorce he wanted his kidney back. As the donated organ was not a marital asset he couldn’t get it back, so he wanted 1.5 million dollars. The Supreme Court has denied his claim because it was not legal to put a monetary value on a human organ.
When religion takes part
A woman from Saudi Arabia has requested a divorce because her husband broke the strict Islamic codes. He asked for a sneak of her face. It wouldn’t be strange if they were not married, but 30 years of living together talk that, at least for the Western world, this is a bizarre reason for getting divorced. It happened while she was sleeping as the husband lifted her veil off her face to finally see how she looks. Unfortunately she woke up, and although he was apologizing and promising that he won’t repeat it again, she left him forever.
“Divorce! Divorce! Be Patient! Be Patient! I Love You! I Love You!”
In a hilarious Chinese case a woman requested divorce using the testimony of the family’s parrot. As it’s well known, the speaking birds use to repeat the words that they hear more often. For this betrayed Chinese wife it was clear that her man is having an affair when their parrot repeated words and phrases like “divorce”, “be patient” and “I love you” in recent times, supposedly that the bird was hearing to husband’s conversation with his mistress. The wife tried to use the parrot as a witness on the trial, but although she gained a divorce, the bird’s testimony, of course, wasn’t accepted by the court.
Splitting assets equal before the divorce
Being suspicious that his wife is having an affair with a local cop, a man from a village near Phnom Penh, Cambodia, has decided to end their 18 years lasting marriage. Although they have had a conversation about the issue for some time, one day Moeun (the husband) and his relatives and friends showed up “armed” with a lot of chainsaws and, we guess, with some alcohol in blood (or some blood in alcohol), and divided the house in two equal parts, probably supposing that the court would make the same decision later. What’s more interesting, they moved his share to his parents’ place, although it’s useless without the other part. Fortunately they hadn’t kids.
Hope you had fun reading!
Saturday, June 18, 2011
It's Funny but It's Real
While I was googling for divorce stories for my second entry on my series What’s Your Story, I found something very interesting on the web.
It was called 10 Tragicomic Divorce Stories from urbantitan.com
Each couple would marry each other hoping to have a happily ever after. Just like in the movies or in fairy tales. Unfortunately it does not happen every time. Here is a list of ten of the world’s most bizarre or, for some, hilarious divorce stories.
I know I have said that divorce is a serious and a very emotional process. However, these stories are really odd and somewhat funny.
Most of the stories on this list come from out of the Western world and have happened in different cultures. Maybe they seem normal somewhere else, but still nobody would like to happen to him or her.
These stories may be funny, but they are actual and are true to life stories.
No bath – no wife
Only a month ago an engineer woman from Egypt had to move to court to divorce her husband after he refused to take a bath in the first month of their marriage. Her “Prince Charming” told her that he has some kind of allergy of water which doesn’t allow him to bathe. Surprised, wife asked for doctor’s advice and he told her that although the decease exists it doesn’t prevent him from cleaning his body. The guy was outraged when his wife confronted him with this fact telling her just that “it was his habit.” He refused to give her divorce, so his wife had to gain it through a court decision.
“Neil Brady has ended his marriage with Emma Brady”
This is a story about becoming-trendy Facebook break ups. Neil Brady updated his status with the message “Neil Brady has ended his marriage with Emma Brady.” Concerned friend of the now-ex-wife called her to ask if she’s all right, but instead of compassion she just caused shock. When Neil Brady came back home from job he’s been acting like nothing happened. But when his wife asked him about the update he lost his temper and threw her out of house and locked her in the back garden accusing her for having an affair. After the incident ended he was fined for his behavior and had to pay compensation to his humiliated wife. Their marriage lasted six years and had one kid.
Without his penis extension – without his wife
Back in 2008, 47 years old Grigory Toporov from Voronezh, Russia added some inches to his masculinity in order to give better pleasure to his demanding wife. Unfortunately, during a wild sex session the extension snapped off. It was enough for his wife to kick him out of the bedroom looking for divorce stating that she was “fed up with his failures in bed.” Toporov bagged her claiming that he aimed to fix the problem getting a new one, but his wife didn’t want to listen anymore.
The wife that couldn’t stand her mother-in-law
This is a characteristic story for tough patriarchal communities mixed up with some Freudian theory example. Only after 10 months in marriage, 22 years old Elena from Romania bid for divorce because she couldn’t stand the remarks of her mother-in-law during the lunch that she’s ruining their marriage. She stated to the court that her life in last ten months turned to nightmare because of her husband’s mother. The judge, of course, asked her to find better reason to separate from her husband, because she was married to him, not his mother.
Not fulfilling the marriage duties
A man named Chen and a woman named Lin, both teachers from China, were introduced by a matchmaker. They got married after three months dating, but then the problems began. On the first night as a married couple Lin dressed up as much as she can wear. When Chen tried to drop all her clothes off intending to sleep with her, she rejected him saying that he is ridiculous. She returned to her mother’s home the very next day, leaving the poor man alone. After one more matchmaker intervention Lin signed a contract agreeing to sleep with her husband, but only for the purpose of procreation, demanding to sleep separately. Chen couldn’t stand that anymore and requested a divorce, which was granted.
It was called 10 Tragicomic Divorce Stories from urbantitan.com
Each couple would marry each other hoping to have a happily ever after. Just like in the movies or in fairy tales. Unfortunately it does not happen every time. Here is a list of ten of the world’s most bizarre or, for some, hilarious divorce stories.
I know I have said that divorce is a serious and a very emotional process. However, these stories are really odd and somewhat funny.
Most of the stories on this list come from out of the Western world and have happened in different cultures. Maybe they seem normal somewhere else, but still nobody would like to happen to him or her.
These stories may be funny, but they are actual and are true to life stories.
No bath – no wife
Only a month ago an engineer woman from Egypt had to move to court to divorce her husband after he refused to take a bath in the first month of their marriage. Her “Prince Charming” told her that he has some kind of allergy of water which doesn’t allow him to bathe. Surprised, wife asked for doctor’s advice and he told her that although the decease exists it doesn’t prevent him from cleaning his body. The guy was outraged when his wife confronted him with this fact telling her just that “it was his habit.” He refused to give her divorce, so his wife had to gain it through a court decision.
“Neil Brady has ended his marriage with Emma Brady”
This is a story about becoming-trendy Facebook break ups. Neil Brady updated his status with the message “Neil Brady has ended his marriage with Emma Brady.” Concerned friend of the now-ex-wife called her to ask if she’s all right, but instead of compassion she just caused shock. When Neil Brady came back home from job he’s been acting like nothing happened. But when his wife asked him about the update he lost his temper and threw her out of house and locked her in the back garden accusing her for having an affair. After the incident ended he was fined for his behavior and had to pay compensation to his humiliated wife. Their marriage lasted six years and had one kid.
Without his penis extension – without his wife
Back in 2008, 47 years old Grigory Toporov from Voronezh, Russia added some inches to his masculinity in order to give better pleasure to his demanding wife. Unfortunately, during a wild sex session the extension snapped off. It was enough for his wife to kick him out of the bedroom looking for divorce stating that she was “fed up with his failures in bed.” Toporov bagged her claiming that he aimed to fix the problem getting a new one, but his wife didn’t want to listen anymore.
The wife that couldn’t stand her mother-in-law
This is a characteristic story for tough patriarchal communities mixed up with some Freudian theory example. Only after 10 months in marriage, 22 years old Elena from Romania bid for divorce because she couldn’t stand the remarks of her mother-in-law during the lunch that she’s ruining their marriage. She stated to the court that her life in last ten months turned to nightmare because of her husband’s mother. The judge, of course, asked her to find better reason to separate from her husband, because she was married to him, not his mother.
Not fulfilling the marriage duties
A man named Chen and a woman named Lin, both teachers from China, were introduced by a matchmaker. They got married after three months dating, but then the problems began. On the first night as a married couple Lin dressed up as much as she can wear. When Chen tried to drop all her clothes off intending to sleep with her, she rejected him saying that he is ridiculous. She returned to her mother’s home the very next day, leaving the poor man alone. After one more matchmaker intervention Lin signed a contract agreeing to sleep with her husband, but only for the purpose of procreation, demanding to sleep separately. Chen couldn’t stand that anymore and requested a divorce, which was granted.
What's Your Story?
What’s your story is going to be a series of stories of real people who experienced divorce or thinking about filing a divorce. We can learn through their experience.
This I’m sure sound so cliche, but I couldn’t have said it better.
Some people learn from their mistakes, but smart people learn from other people's mistakes
Today, I am going to start with my first entry to this series.
I’ve been saying on my previous blogs that divorce is something that a couple should think rationally about. They should not just decide compulsively. Divorce is a big thing. It could and would change your life then and there.
There are a lot of things a couple should consider before filing the divorce, or even thinking of filing one. There are ways to resolve things, and they should try everything before deciding on filing a divorce.
Always remember that divorce is always the last option.
Here is a story from http://www.womansdivorce.com/ about a woman who filed a divorce and still regret.
My say in this situation is that regret is always at the end. So, what can I say to you is that everything happens for a reason and just to make you feel better, remember why you thought of filing a divorce, and why you did.
I believe that you are a strong and an intelligent person. You had suffered enough with him, and it is time for you to be happy. You have said that he drank a lot during the marriage, and also had an affair. That having been said, is enough reason to be separated with him. To end the suffering and emotional pain.
Another tip is find other things to do. Divert your thoughts, and find something that could be fulfilling to do.
Remember this, you deserve to be happy and he is not even worth it. He has moved on, and it is your time to move on as well. Be happy with what you have. You still have two beautiful children who loves you.
It does not matter if you become happy alone, or with a new man. But as long as your happy, and you know you are. Everything is well.
This I’m sure sound so cliche, but I couldn’t have said it better.
Some people learn from their mistakes, but smart people learn from other people's mistakes
Today, I am going to start with my first entry to this series.
I’ve been saying on my previous blogs that divorce is something that a couple should think rationally about. They should not just decide compulsively. Divorce is a big thing. It could and would change your life then and there.
There are a lot of things a couple should consider before filing the divorce, or even thinking of filing one. There are ways to resolve things, and they should try everything before deciding on filing a divorce.
Always remember that divorce is always the last option.
Here is a story from http://www.womansdivorce.com/ about a woman who filed a divorce and still regret.
It's been three years and I still regret the divorce
Victoria was married for twenty years and they had two children together. Her daughter is 16 and son 23. His husband drank a lot during their marriage, went into an AA program, and during the program he had an affair. Victoria told him that she wanted a divorce. Now, she regret it because it's been 3 years and she still can't get over the divorce. His husband found someone else, they are living together and he says he is happier than he ever has been (which hurts her even more). She is in DivoceCare, goes to Church and believe in God. She have days where she is OK, but she thinks of the time she spent with him and it hurts. She considers herself as an intelligent person, so why can't she get over this?
My say in this situation is that regret is always at the end. So, what can I say to you is that everything happens for a reason and just to make you feel better, remember why you thought of filing a divorce, and why you did.
I believe that you are a strong and an intelligent person. You had suffered enough with him, and it is time for you to be happy. You have said that he drank a lot during the marriage, and also had an affair. That having been said, is enough reason to be separated with him. To end the suffering and emotional pain.
Another tip is find other things to do. Divert your thoughts, and find something that could be fulfilling to do.
Remember this, you deserve to be happy and he is not even worth it. He has moved on, and it is your time to move on as well. Be happy with what you have. You still have two beautiful children who loves you.
It does not matter if you become happy alone, or with a new man. But as long as your happy, and you know you are. Everything is well.
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