What's Your Story? From a Man's Perspective Part II

Here is my opinion from the story from my previous blog entry, What's Your Story? From a Man's Perspective

I do not know why, but it seemed that when we talk about divorce. I see women as the victim. And as a woman, I do not like to see any woman who gets abused or victimized.

But at least in this case, I feel sympathetic for the man.

At first, I think that the it is not the guy’s fault. It is his wife’s fault because they are still together and married, yet she’s searching love from another man. I do not think that cheating in marriage is not justifiable. I believe that it is his wife’s responsibility to understand and forgive her husband.

The guy admitted that it is his fault, because communication was out of sync.

In my previous blogs, I have mentioned that communication is the key.

So, we can see that communication is really important in a relationship.

Marriage is a work by two people, and effort by a person would not carry the marriage through. It would not work. The other person would get tired of carrying all the burden. It is a responsibility of both parties to give effort on saving the marriage.

In their case, marriage has been over for a while. They are married in paper, but in their hearts they are no longer married. The wife would need to respect him. But what she was doing does not show any respect at all. She is having an affair, and he knows it.

I think it is a little bit too late. It has been four years that the woman has replaced him. I am not sure if she could still show some respect to him after she has done that.

As I have said, marriage is an effort from two people. But I do not think that both of you are showing some effort. As long as she is still seeing or having communications with the guy, she is not taking the relationship seriously. There should be apologizing and remorse that should happen.

But, in order to save the marriage, I think the guy should still do something about it. Show some effort that you still want your wife. Try talking to the guy that the woman that she’s seeing is a married woman.

At the end of the day, you are still her husband. Legal husband on the eyes of the law.

It does not hurt to try, and fix the marriage. Try to make your wife to fall in love with you all over again.

Remember how you courted her? Show her that you love her and that she’s important to you.

Do little things that would make her happy. Let her know that you are still the same man the she fell in love with.

Put yourself in her position. All she needs is recognition.
Love’s not enough when you say it. Don’t you know you gotta mean it?