Friday, July 1, 2011

The Pre-Marital

This blog is all about what divorce is, what happens in a divorce, how to prevent divorce and how to cope with divorce. I’ve also mentioned and cited a lot of divorce stories for us to learn from. Basically, the purpose of this blog is for me to vent out all opinions on divorce. I’ve also mentioned that the Philippines is the only country that still does not allow divorce. I’ve explained the reason behind it and it is because of their strong culture and Faith.

Today, I am going to do something different. Yet, it is still related to divorce.

Why does divorce occur? Can we prevent this? I know, I have already tackled this. But, this time in a Christian or Biblical Perspective.

Divorce can only happen to married people. So, what does being married mean?
In Matthew 19:4-6, in The Message Translation (MSG)
 4-6He answered, "Haven't you read in your Bible that the Creator originally made man and woman for each other, male and female? And because of this, a man leaves father and mother and is firmly bonded to his wife, becoming one flesh—no longer two bodies but one. Because God created this organic union of the two sexes, no one should desecrate his art by cutting them apart."
Okay, so let’s first put this aside.
Another question, how does the marriage process work? So here is the standard process that leads to marriage.
First, acquaintance. During this stage both parties study the other and learn about him or her. Then, they become somewhat knowledgeable or they know little about each other. After that, approval of being friends with each other
Second, courtship. Here is all the fun part begins. During this stage the woman will evaluate the man whether his tricks work on her. She will also be the one who will approve whether they shall continue to the next stage.
Third, going steady. In this stage the relationship is already steady. Meaning, there is acceptance for each other. However, both parties would still evaluate each other if they could go on and move to the next stage.
Fourth, engagement. In this stage, formalization happens. The man would propose for marriage, and when the woman says yes then they are already engaged. In this part, a lot of thinking should be done. Both parties should have to answer yes into the following questions:

    Do I love him or her?
    Can I live forever with this person?
    Do I see myself growing old with this person?
    Will I still love this person even when he or she is all wrinkly?

Lastly, Preparing for the Wedding. When one is already on this stage, it only means that both parties are determined to live together forever.
However, there is a condition. The condition is to leave their parents and live and build a family together. The husband and wife should live together. They should be united. Moreover they have the duty of procreating or reproducing. Which means having babies, whom they have responsible to.

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