...Into Something “Good”

This is the next five tips from my previous blog, Turning Something "Bad"...

Break ups does make people feel down, sad, left out and very emotional. It lowers one’s self-esteem.
Do not let a break up make you feel useless. You are worth it!

Follow these useful tips, and be learn how to be happy again!

PLAN AND CONQUER
"If we don't set our schedules, somebody else will set it for us," declares Dr. Trent, which is what has happened in most breakups. This may be difficult emotionally, so he recommends choosing one goal at a time to work toward. This may be to make it through the day, travel or earn a master's degree. Frei emphasizes rewarding yourself for accomplishing goals.

TAKE TIME TO GREIVE AND START WITH A CLEAN SLATE
People heal at different paces. Allow yourself time to feel, cry. "Clear up reminders," says Frei, by purging things in your living space that remind you of the person. Don't get involved in a new relationship too quickly, which may transfer feelings from your old relationship to the new one; rather, "take time with friends to get rid of the loneliness feeling."

ENRICH OTHERS THROUGH VOLUNTEERING
Volunteering is a great way to achieve self-actualization while helping others. The caveat: People may not feel like volunteering. Regardless, Dr. Trent believes "actions dictate feelings, not the reverse. When we begin to take actions that are positive… that generates positive feelings. Not the opposite." Take the first step, and the feelings will naturally follow.

REDISCOVER YOURSELF
Relationships are often filled with many compromises. Create a vision board by cutting out pictures and words from magazines that are meaningful to you in a relationship, or print your own, and paste them to a poster board. This constant visual reminder will fill your mind with positive energy and remind you what can be achieved each day.

SORRY, JERRY MAGUIRE – YOU DON'T COMPLETE ME
Contrary to the popular movie line, Frei says, "Love isn't about somebody completing you; we're all complete." Develop your weaknesses so you don't search for them in a partner and sacrifice good qualities (kind and loving) for the one strength you're fixated on (someone who is good with money). Positive qualities attract positive people. Focus on developing yourself verses finding satiation in another.

These helpful tips were also from www.sheknows.com

My personal tip in a break up situation is that you need time to cry. Be sad for a moment. You can never be strong all the time. Face the reality. You do not have to pretend that you are okay, and nothing is wrong. It is okay to cry. So, for that moment cry and be sad.

But after that, shake it off! Smile! And Move on!

Breaking up is not the worst thing that could happen. Breaking up would mean something better is meant for you!

Think Positive, and Smile!

Note: These tips are mostly for women.
         However, there are also tips that men could use and apply to themselves.