Prevention is the Best Cure

It is always normal to have difficult times in every marriage. However, sometimes, in those fights, someone in the relationship would say “I want out!” or “I want a divorce.” Sometimes, the one saying this don’t really mean it. Unfortunately, there are times when it is already serious. Divorce is one of the most painful things that a person can go through. Fortunately, there are keys and pointers on how to avoid divorce, and also to know how to deal with conflicts.

These tips are for both men and women.

First, Before you say “I do!” think first! - Ask yourself, how important is this relationship to me? Do I love him or her? Can I live the rest of my life with this person? If your answers are yes, then commit to yourself that you will really do and mean everything you will vow on your wedding day.

If you are already married, then skip the first step and remember all the good times you had, when you’re in difficult times. Remember the day of your marriage. Remember why you loved him or her. Second, do not add to the problem, but think of a solution. You must deal with the issue IMMEDIATELY. Why? Because if not, the longer you argue, the more irritated you’ll be with your partner. Since, when you are annoyed with someone, everything he or she does will annoy you. When this happen, your argument will be bigger, and problems would just add and add. This will cause an unhealthy relationship. So, confront the problem before it gets worse. Who knows, it might just be a small misunderstanding. Don’t wait for it to get serious. In addition, by doing this you will get more closer to your partner. Since, you are both open to each other.

Third, Spend more time with him or her. Couples should have time for each other. Communication is the key to every healthy relationship. You can start about asking how his or her day. You can watch TV together, or take her out for dinner once in a while. Compliment him or her on how she does things or how good he or she looks. Surprise each other on special occasions. Make time for intimacy. Have a healthy sex life. Say, “ I love you” as much as you can. This is to reassure your partner that you still love him.

Lastly, when all else fails, get a marriage counselor. The counselor could give you tips and pieces of advice that could enlightened you and give you a new perspective in your relationship.

Those are only tips that you can apply to have a healthier and happier relationship. Oh, and remember you can never change a person. You can only change yourself. Accept your partner on who he or she is. You can your partner what you like or what you do not like about him or her NICELY. Think before you act, and remember that your partner is just human. So, treat him or her like one!