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Divorce is a situation that no one wants to be in. I have been blogging about divorce for a few days. I defined what divorce is, causes of divorce, and I have also discussed the difficulties and consequences one would come across during and even after the divorce process.

I know that I am a little bit biased on this topic and I have been telling you that divorce is bad, I’m against divorce and all that. However, I also believe that in everything, there is a good and a bad side.

I will discuss the pros or the positive side of divorce first. As I have said in my previous blogs, marriages can never be perfect. It is up to the couple on how they handle and keep their relationship strong. The positive side of divorce is when one of the people is too tired, too weak, and too abused both physically or emotionally. These are times that we say enough is enough! It is not healthy to stay in a relationship that would just hurt you, or bring you down. It is tiring when only one person is trying to save the relationship. It is stressful and tiring when only one person makes an effort. In addition, it would hurt the person a lot, since you do not feel that he/she loves you anymore. It would be stupid to stay in a relationship that does not work and hurts you emotionally or sometimes physically. It would only make you feel depress, frustrated, angry and sometimes a failure. These things could lead to a helplessness or depression. What’s the point of staying when all you get is argument, fighting, getting hurt and abused.

So, why am I saying this? I am saying this to awaken people that divorce is need if and only if one is in those kinds of impossible situation. However, the couple should still try their very best to save their marriage. Remember, divorce is always the last option. Divorce is only the key when one does not feel happy in the relationship anymore. When he/she gets hurt. People get married because they are in love with each other. So, my point is, why stay if you do not feel loved or love the person anymore. Divorce is a chance to find that love again. Unfortunately, from another person.

When one has undergone and conquered divorce from a man or a woman who just hurts him or her then one would have a brand new life. A life that one would build from scratch. Does not sound good doesn’t it? Well, I think this “brand new life” is a better than before - abused, hurting, full of arguments and fights. At least, in this new life you have your freedom, and to be free from stress! Free from yelling, shouting, fighting and arguing.
In this new life, one should be responsible enough to live it well, and not to commit the same mistakes again.

I’ll continue this blog, and be discussing the negative side of divorce.