The Aftermath

Divorce itself is already painful for both of them since they would be separated with the one they used to love, or worse, someone they still love. Someone whom they had promised to spend their life with. There are a lot of things one should be prepared of during, and even after the divorce process. To state the obvious, it would involve a lot of tears, pain, and bitterness. It is going to be heart breaking for everyone who is involved in the separation.

It is a big issue to manage and to cope with divorce. The divorcé or divorcée could either be happy or devastated after the divorce.

One of the most common effects of divorce is the financial income. Now, they income flow would not be coming from two pay checks. It would only be coming from a person. This change in cash flow would affect their lifestyle. For instance, they might have to find a more affordable place to live, their children might have to transfer to a public school, and they might not be able to travel like they used to. This will also cause them to cut down their expenses due to reduced income. They might also have to find for extra jobs and to work overtime just to have a decent living.

Second, the couple would have to manage their emotion. After divorce, their lifestyle would totally change. Being a married couple to single. They would have to cope with anxiety, since they would feel like they are starting over again. They would worry about a lot of things that might happen to them. They would also have to cope with guilt, disappointment, anger, weariness, loneliness, and sadness.  These feelings are inevitable, since people usually fear when something new happens to them.

The couple, or should I say ex-couple, are not the only ones who are going to be affected. The people who are most close to them would be also affected with the situation.

In every marriage break up, it is the children who are going to be affected the most especially when the situation was not handled properly. Most of the time, the parents are caught up with their situation that they disregard their children’s feelings. 

The psychological effect of their parents separation would affect them negatively.  They would feel guilty since they think that it was their fault why their parents separated. They would feel embarrassed, insecure, and they will lose confidence since their peers have a whole and happy family, and he has none. This would result to loss of concentration to their studies, and it would affect their attitude and behavior negatively.

According to http://www.childadvocate.net/divorce_effects_on_children.htm, children ages 3 to 5 years old are the ones who will likely exhibit regression. They would develop the fear of custodial separation. While, children ages 61/2 to 8 are the ones who will grieve openly for the departed parent. Children during this stage will have a difficulty on the concept of divorce. Then, children ages 8 to 11 would express anger and powerlessness. These children would express grief, and would have the tendency on labeling who’s the good and the bad parent. Last, children ages 12-18 would respond to the situation with acute depression, suicidal ideation, and violent acting. They would be anxious and fearful about their own future.

Divorce can affect one’s life and the people involved negatively. The consequences of divorce affects the children the most, and it would be hard for everyone to cope on the separation. It can affect people emotionally and psychologically. Divorce is a family affair, which everyone is going to be involved.

Remember, divorce is not always the solution. Try to talk about it and learn to forgive. Try to save your marriage and remember the reason why you married the person. The only relationship that could not and should no be saved is an abusive relationship.