The Other Side of the Coin

In the world, the Philippines and the Vatican are the only places where divorce is still illegal. We all know that the Philippines is a Christian nation and how their Faith and their Culture strongly influences the Filipinos.

Divorce has always been a controversial issue and I believe that the only way to be enlightened and be knowledgeable on the topic.

According to the latest survey, five out of ten Filipinos are Pro Divorce, while one out of five are still undecided.

Personally, I say that I am against divorce and I have stated all of the reasons why I am in my previous blogs. However, when I hear or read the side of the people who are pro divorce, I tend to somehow switch sides. But in the end of the day, when you ask me I am still against.
But somehow, I guess I am still confused.

Whenever I hear, “What about those people who suffers from marital abuse? Who gets emotional and worse, physical abuse from their spouse?” I tend think twice.
Those people deserve to get their life back. Without divorce, there can not have a room for happiness and to move on.

But as I contemplate, I realized that the bill will help those people who suffers from marital abuse. It is when enough is enough. They can not play the role of a martyr in their whole life. They deserve to be happy and get rid of their abusive partners.

Another point that was raised was that the Church sees the divorce bill on a general perspective.
Maybe, we should just face the fact that not all marriages succeeds.
There are a lot of reasons why they do not succeed. Each couple has a story. Some couples have a lighter situation, but some have big situations.

There are physical abuse, sexual infidelity, irreconcilable differences and conflicting personalities, gross irresponsibility, loss of affection, and many other conflicts between the couple.
According to the website of Philippine Commission on Women, “physical injuries and/or wife battering remains to be the most prevalent case across the twelve-year period, from 1997–2009, accounting nearly half (45.5 percent) of all reported violence against women (VAW) cases nationwide.”

In the Philippines, spousal abuse and infidelity are not grounds for the annulment of marriage.

In the end, whether the divorce bill will be passed or not, both the husband and the wife should really fight for their marriage to last. I believe that we should trust the Filipinos with their values. I still believe that the Fear of the Lord and their Faith is the top priority. Moreover, there are some marriage counselors that can give the best advice to maintain a happy relationship.

Now, having all these said. I would now say that I am Pro Divorce.

Don’t get me wrong. I would agree on having divorce bill passed here in the Philippines for the sake of the marital abused.

I would not want people to suffer their whole life with the wrong person, and lose the happiness in their life.