What's Your Story? From a Man's Perspective

In this blog entry, I would discuss an experience of a man. It would be like one of my previous blog entry, What’s Your Story? I know I have said that I would not continue the series, but I found one interesting experience that I could use as an example in this blog.

In addition, to avoid bias. I got this story from a man. For some reasons, I often tend to see the woman as a victim. But it is different in this case.

You’ll understand when you’ve read the whole thing

“I have been married for seven years, sadly the last four have been quite bad, all communication has been out of sync or non-existent. She has had two separate affairs, but she admitted were being unhappy about life, liking the attention, and were largely physical. Counseling frustrated her because she said all it did was have someone to tell her how messed up she is (the councilor). She started a new affair a few months ago, I have very recently discovered it through some e-mails. The depths go far deeper than physical, she was completely ready to leave me. I have tried to steer her back towards me. I know nothing justifies cheating on your spouse but I do feel partly responsible because there are little things I could have done differently to avert a lot of this. But back to the current guy she told him, and he agreed, that she needs to see if things can be salvaged with us. I haven't told her about the e-mails but she did admit that she had fallen in love with another and wanted to try with us once again. I am pretty sure I already know the answer, but at what point to I surrender to the possibility she has already made up her mind and won't admit it to herself? That her desire to make us work is just her not being honest with herself? I don't want to let her go, there is something between us that is worth fighting for (something she has agreed on as well) and many of the surrounding circumstances causing our breakdown in communication have past, just not the wounds. She just came back from seven months overseas where the relationship reached its climax and I expected things to be awkward, but how much time should I let go by before it isn't that awkward again? She says she wants to work on things but seems to be distant and push back when I try to do little things. She won't stop communication with him (they text frequently), and I'm pretty sure all of you will agree that alone is a sign she's not truly serious about us but I have my reasons to believe this isn't the case. Having said all of that I guess I'm looking for a consensus as to if this is a colossal waste of time on my part?”

Please read my next blog entry for my opinions.